Being pregnant at the moment sees me spending my free time drinking a lot of Milo (Australian cocoa, but so much better than cocoa), baking way too much, being the only parent who gets sleep ins and spending way too much time hypothesising about whether I’m having a boy or a girl.
I was sick, so that makes me think boy. I’m expanding out rather than forward, so it must be a girl. Baby moves around a lot…maybe a boy. Something in my gut tells me girl…girl?
It is equal parts nice and frustrating not knowing. I’m in a great position, I already have one of each, so it really doesn’t matter to me either way. I’m glad that one of my children will get to have a same sex sibling. And I do like to daydream about the different scenarios, even though fate is already sealed.
Another nice thing is that I’ve experienced both knowing and not knowing the sex before – with Heike we didn’t find out, because it didn’t matter to us either way, and with Walter we did because I really thought he was a boy and didn’t want to be let down if I was wrong (that sounds bad! But I did hope for a boy). I have to say I personally loved not knowing, the reward at the end was just so great, but it wasn’t exponentially better than knowing. Walter’s birth was so smooth and his first day here so completely lovely and easy that it didn’t matter that much that we didn’t get that “surprise”.
J firmly does not believe in finding out the sex (I had to beg him last time!) so that’s just the way it is, but I wouldn’t mind knowing…I would love to know what I can give away for starters! I’d also love to tell the kids, who are dying to know either way (“It’s definitely a girl Mama” says H, naturally). But I guess I will have time for that once the baby arrives.
Still, I did try to do the sneaky at my OB’s office today. As she fiddled around with her ultrasound machine I couldn’t help but ask “So, can you see the sex right now?” to which she replied “I can tell you my guess with about 70% accuracy…do you want me to tell you?”. No, no, of course I didn’t, but now I’m driving myself even more mad. 70% accuracy, does that suggest girl? Or does the fact that she answered so quickly mean she saw some boy parts? OR, do I need to find something more useful with which to occupy my time?
It is a total cliche but I will feel so lucky just to have a third healthy baby in my arms. 24 weeks to go!
So, tell me, am I having a boy or a girl?! Did you find out the sex of your babies, or ponder the “what ifs?” like me?